Today is a historical day. Even if there is still more challenge ahead to today’s California Supreme Court decision that overturns the state’s ban on gay marriage, today makes the journey to equality one step closer. Right now there is very little equality for gay couples and whatever benefits are afforded to same sex couples varies state by state. For example, here in Washington, DC same sex couples can register as “domestic partners” and are given every right that is given to heterosexual married couples. Any same sex couple in the United States can register as DP’s here as long as the appropriate forms are notarized, a process just like any couple requesting a license to marry. As DP’s there are some legal protections and, although it is not a substitute for or equal to marriage, it is still a step closer with public and governmental recognition of the relationship and commitment. This also protects each partner in the case of death or medical emergency where one can act as medical proxy for the other.

Do I want to move to California and get married? Well, I already bought the bouquet but I’m sure that all of the best reception halls were booked five minutes after the announcement was made…you know how stylish the gays have to be! Seriously, it would be nice to have a simple ceremony, surrounded by friends and loved ones to witness an exchange of promises, vows, wishes, and commitments that, realistically, we have already been living. Until then, I think domestic partnership affords the same protections and opportunities until the time comes for a national recognition of same sex marriage and serves as an acceptable compromise, with commitment ceremonies and the same vow exchange.

It would be nice to see every state recognize the value and validity of same sex marriages and cease the discrimination that couples face each day. Until then, times like this are meant for rejoicing and renewed optimism that there is still the glimpse of hope for two people who love one another to share in the rewards and protections that marriage affords.